Do you feel like you get judged sometimes as a mom due to your appearance?
Do you share different beliefs that one might think prevents you from being a good mom?
Do you get stares because you may be in a single parent household
Well let’s talk then mommas, I’m sure we all have more in common then one would like to think. Let me just start off by saying this, I was a different woman before I had my son and even though I thought everything would change about me it didn’t. Sure I may not go out as much as I did before but there are sometimes I just want a break. A night out on the town to let my hair free maybe even have a couple of shots. Does that make me a bad mom? No, it doesn’t. I’m still capable of giving the same love to my child as anyone else. As mothers its already hard on us to be the supermoms we are, and once we throw society in that our views on motherhood are easily persuaded.
Back to this appearance thing ..one might take a look at me and make a judgment.I have facial piercings and a few small tattoos but I’m still kind and I promise I don’t bite. I would really hate to think that in the future when I’m setting up my Titans play dates, some mothers would be put off at the thought of hanging out with me or him because of appearance. I’m even all for blended families. It’s like 2018 we’ve got to loosen up as a society from those old myths of ” Good moms don’t have tattoos ” or those whispers of “If she was a good mother she would have took those piercings out “. No – Way! Being a mother doesn’t stop me from being self-expressive in ways that I find creative and it shouldn’t stop you either.
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Valentines day is for all things love related . When your feeling over whelmed from being a mom remember that every day is worth it. lets jump right into it …
4 reasons why being a mom is worth it
As a first time mom my self, I am going through the grits of it all. Sleepless nights, early play times at 3 am plus more. That very moment that Titan has me feeling defeated I try to think back to why I signed up to be a mom in the first place. Its stressful sometimes, as if the long hours of labor pains wasn’t enough. I can only think of one word , LOVE lots of unconditionally LOVE. There are many days when I don’t get to give much to my self. But when I know that my child is okay and smiling I know that my job has been well done. So take a deep breathe momma and exhale . . Here is a cute little reminder of why your doing over time shifts with your little one.
YOU ALWAYS HAVE A FRIEND – You know that saying ” As long as I’m here your never alone” Well its right in ever way. Having a child keeps you on your toes, those little conversations you have on a daily with your child builds a friendship and a bond. Soon you and your child will have your own special lingo that no one but you guys will understand.
- OUTINGS ARE MORE FUN – No more eating by your self at a restaurant if you don’t want to. I personally have took Titan out to eat with me in a group setting and have loved the looks he gets in his cute little outfits or just how is eyes light up seeing all the different faces and lighting. Its like all the fun places you always said you cant wait to check out seem more funner with your child. The zoo, museums, Chuckie Cheese (Because what kid doesn’t love a good slice of pizza and a game ) just to name a few.
- HOLIDAYS – I can’t picture the holidays with out my son. We just recently shared our first Christmas together and it was very emotional for me . He is not 1 yrs old yet so he doesn’t understand the concept of Christmas . That didn’t stop me from wrapping the gifts as if he could open them though. Another great holiday that makes motherhood feel worth it is Mothers day. I will finally get to experience that day as a mom my self this year . The day that all super moms are celebrated for giving life. The holidays are all about family and being thankful . All those late nights and laundry loads you had to do seems worth it when your child comes up to you and says “Thank you mom you are the best”. It feels good right ?
- INSPIRATION – I am becoming more of a go- getter than I have ever been in my life. Do you remember life before you had your child ? Sure I miss those crazy wild nights out with my friends . Even though I remember more freedom to do pretty much what I wanted, with out having to worry about much consequences . Having a child grounds you in ways you’ve never felt before. You move more cautiously as you realize your choices in life now effect you and your little one. Titan makes me dig deep into what I want out of life and what I’m going to do to achieve it. I want stability and to be financially free. I want him to grow up and say ” Mom you’ve done a great job at raising me and making a life for us “. Our kids our the future , for there is no better promise than that its self.
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