How I achieved my goal while rocking a baby on my hip !!

Moms I did it ! I finished my Community health worker certification program while entering my first year of being a first time mom. If I can do it then you can to !! Revisiting my educational goals have always been something important to me. Its pretty clear from the very first day of giving birth that I need to be in a position to provide for my child by all means necessary.

Me finishing this program while my child was under 1 yrs old , was challenging but never the less rewarding. I had hard nights and long days between juggling breastfeeding (on demand) working , being in love ( because we all know that takes so much of your energy lol) taking care of house hold duties. I could name so much everyday stuff that would get in the way on homework nights but I OVERCAME it all. You can to with the right support system around you. Truth be told with out my support system I couldn’t have done it.

Me & My son Titan with the off guard looks.

Can I let you in on a little seceret ?

So to keep it nice and short a Community health worker is someone who acts as a liaison between getting health and social services to those in need. During my time in school I have gotten the chance to volunteer at some cool events . Being in contact with so many other mothers/ women out there like me, who are just trying to figure out life while living . It has been such a big eye opener to me . This experience has taught me so much I’m even thinking about going back to obtain my bachelors degree ! You can do anything you put your mind to. Having My mom take the same course I took with me in the same semester was just a added bonus to give me that push I needed. Seeing her accomplish something as well motivated me to realize no matter what your age or time frame its NEVER to late to be a goal SETTER.

When its all said and done whats holding you back ? Fear ! Fear can only last so long before your inner voice creeps in and lets you know that you’ve got this. Once you slap all of those fears away you become UNSTOP ABLE.

Lets try something here together Today …..

  1. Write down on a piece of paper your goals
  2. Next write down your fears ( Pertaining to whats standing in your way)
  3. LASTLY… throw away the list of FEARS and focus on your goals .

Over the next month figure out what steps you can take to get closer to your goals. Remember that everyone’s goals may not look like yours. That’s what makes you unique . It may be something as small as getting all house hold things done, or finally publishing that book you been writing. Whatever the goal is find some-type of motivation to get there. As always I will be here every step of the way if you need more tips leave a comment below . I have a feeling this conversation will spark a fire in you to make a change !

Until next time, Mommas

3 warning signs it’s time to break up with your birth control

Hey there mommas , sorry about the scary post title but I felt the need to be a bit dramatic. As I write this post I have a long awaited doctors appointment with my obgyn tomorrow , I am one nervous momma  to say the least.  However I’m still more confused as why it took me so long to make the appointment in the first place(as it always is with any break up ). One thing I do know for sure is that it’s time to break up with my IUD birth control.

I initially got my birth control a couple of months after the birth of my son, I felt that it was the right thing to do by doctors orders and by my own decision to wait for another child. Looking back I wish I would have waited and did more research on this matter. We aren’t talking about trying out a new food and not liking it . We’re talking about something that is semi permanent but could have long term effects on you and your body as a women. It scared the living day lights out of me but all I kept thinking was I don’t want to be pregnant again within a year ! Which made me make a big choice within a little time.

After doing slight research and haven already had previous experience with the patch (yikes I gained so much weight with that method ) in the past. I chose to go with the IUD -liletta  this time. The idea of not having to worry about getting pregnant for 3 years and the fact that it’s a one time insert procedure made me feel like it was the easiest thing to do. I skimmed through the paper work of the pros and cons about it in the waiting room and just went with it . What’s the worst thing that could happen right ?

Well Number 1.

The procedure was awful, painful, and unbecoming. As I laid back on the cold chair in the doctors office I kept starring at the ceiling thinking why am I doing this again ? Yes they did warn me that it would be some discomfort but it felt like birth all over again with the pap smear like beginning. I think everyone herd me in the doctors office when I yelled out ” I can’t take it ” my stomach was contracting so fast at that point.

Besides the awkward ride home from the doctors office, I popped some meds and took it easy the rest of the day . I felt like everything would be fine after a couple of days and I wouldn’t have to worry about the little U shaped object with strings that were inside of me. The worst part was over right ?

Wrong again


It was explained to me that after a couple of months I would have little to no period/bleeding . That was a lie . I’ve experience so much spoting that it’s almost annoying to get dressed because I always have to be mindful of my situation. The cramps have been like a blow to my stomach. The worst ever !


I’ve gained so much weight it has put me in a bad place emotionally. After the birth of titan I was losing weight fast because of the breast feeding and pumping I was doing. The Iud in my case has reversed that. I can’t seem to lose weight at all and my cravings for food has increased . I’m not sure if it’s the hormones or what but after I get it token out I’m hoping for some type of weight loss.

Those are just a few of my complaints about this birth control. After taking all of this in consideration I feel like it’s time to let go of it. I wake up with pain in my legs and stomach area every week. I kept telling my self it would go away but after 6 months now and no change. It’s time to BREAK UP. Besides I’m only 27 years old and I wouldn’t want to do any other damage to my body as it pertains to producing more babies. I just cant take this discomfort anymore or the unknown feeling of what this thing is doing to my lady parts. Not to mention in the fine print they say you could experience blood clots, pelvic disease and cysts on your ovaries. As if that’s not scary enough, I’m just not willing to stick  around to find out if it’s true.

I don’t know about you but my body isn’t taking well to this birth control and through more research I will decide to go with another one within the next 6 months . I don’t want to rush into having another child right now as Titan already keeps me busy. Plus with my new business ventures I’m just starting to do everything I’ve dreamed of, but if god places another baby into my life I wont be mad.

With that said, What works for me may not work for you and vice versus always consult with your doctor to make the best informed choice . View your options and have those healthy conversations. Always Practice safe SEX.  As far as for myself  I’m breaking up with my IUD birth control and will be looking for other options. If you have any questioneds or comments please feel free to connect with me below. If you want more information on the IUD visit here.


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