We all have bad days

Hey mommas out there ,  I have come here to do a little Ranting & raving. Can we talk?

  Being a mom isn’t easy but when you look at your sweet little one its so hard to stay mad. I had a rough last week. Titan has been up and down and right at the peak of his 6 1/2  month growth spurt.  Although it has been fun watching him grow and find his toes. Its defiantly been a test to my energy level. Sleep is all I crave ! Am I wrong for wanting a little sleep here and there ? No Im not and you are not either. If you run on E all day and  have enough energy and patience with your baby I applaud you. I try to sneak in little naps here and there but lets face it I still have laundry to do and a million other things to keep the house afloat.  One night it felt like no matter what toy I gave Titan he just wouldn’t play. It was at that very moment that I ran through the checklist all moms do. Diaper changed ? Is he hungry ? Does he have gas ? Is anything irritating him ? Nothing was wrong, But one thing he was fighting his sleep . Here I am sitting here about to dose off and here he is fighting his sleep when it could all be so simple. Just close your eyes Titan and we both can rest peacefully.  That’s not how it works for baby’s though , they need comfort and sometimes want to hear they’re sweet little voices. After figuring this out ( me being a first -time mom and all ) I gave in  I wasn’t going to get any sleep and my best bet was to just turn on Bubbie Guppies and rock my Titan . It worked wonders. I think that our moods sometimes effect our children, sometimes you just have to go with it and take a deep breathe and release. Its crazy how after being so frustrated Titan can just smile or blow spit bubbles and my mood lightens. As moms we all have bad days and its better to talk about them with a friend or family member so you don’t feel alone. My friends and mom are life savers when it comes to this , I can always call them and they give me some good advice. Its so easy to feel overwhelmed, If you have someone you trust to watch your child for a quick 30 mintue nap take it. I know I am not the only one with break through moments like this. If you have some of your own bad day experiences  comment them down below. Titan is still the apple of my eye and I could still use 1 more nap . Its  Normal Im just starting off at this super mom thing.

Until next time .

The truth behind the myth of black women breastfeeding

I should for warn you that I do not want to offend any one with my take on this topic. I really am only here to have a open conversation with you about the history of being a black woman and breastfeeding . There are things I’ve been blind to and I want to share with you my experiences on this subject.

 

 

 

This post is a little different then my usual  post. I want to have a conversation with you  during this black history month. Call me stupid or call me a out of touch mom, but I’m just now finding out about something know as “wet nursing ” which has been going on since slavery days over 100 years ago. Black slaved women were forced to raise and breastfeed there owners children. Now being that I am a breast feeding mom I want to focus on the fact that these women were forced to feed others children. I have just started my breast feeding journey 6 months ago after the birth of my son. Never did it cross my mind ever that if was born back in the day my choice to breastfeed could have have been token from me and I could have been forced to do it unwillingly. I’m livid at the idea of slavery of any kind no matter what race altogether. But I feel even more sadden that something so special as breastfeeding your child sometimes was not a choice back then. As if being raped and tormented wasn’t enough in the slave times. Breastfeeding is a full time job. Its not all cakes and pies. You have to be dedicated to the process of taking on the responsibility of providing nutrition  for your child. Its also an emotionally bond that is between mother and child. Me personally I cant imagine having to share my breast/feeding with another child that was not my own  unless I wanted to. Continue reading “The truth behind the myth of black women breastfeeding”