Love Doesn’t Hurt . PERIOD

Hey Mommas out there , I have been away from this spot for far to long its time to get back to myself and get back to spreading the word to others. I’ve been doing well (I’ll give a update on my self next post ) . This post however could not wait though… I can not let another day go by with out shouting the lyrics to lizzo’s Truth hurts record ” I took a DNA test and turns out um 100% that Chick ” which is what I want you all to feel out there ! But the truth of the matter is that sometimes we don’t feel that way about our selves and sometimes we let others treat us like were UN worthy of true value or love.

As I was scrolling through Instagram the other day I saw a post that the rapper Nicki minija posted about How love should not hurt. It got me to thinking …Have I experienced these things she listed before? Have I seen someone close to me go through some of these things ? YES and YES .

Here’s the post below read it. Ask your self have you been through this? And then lets chat about it …

picture cred . @Theshaderoom

This is a no judge zone .. I realize that Self reflecting can be tough but Im so happy that Nicki minaj was BOLD enough to make this statement that most wouldn’t dare to speak out about. I personally have been through at least 4 of these things on that list. Matter of fact since this post is all about highlighting that love doesn’t hurt Im going to open up and say that I have been through EVERYTHING on this list except for #1 . In past relationships I have played ” The part” the girl who loves hard and gets knocked down even harder . I have made excuses for ex’s behavior , I’ve covered for a abuser, kept people in my life that made me feel awful about myself. I have since then taken mental notes of what a healthy relationship looks like…and although I am not perfect I am trying my best. I cant stress enough that if you love your self first whole hardly with your flaws and all then its very hard for a men/woman to pull this crap and continue to get away with it.

There is no way you should not be in a relationship were you are crying all the time, feeling self doubt , continuously wondering were your spouse is. Love should make you feel good. Love should make you want to conquer the world together. Take notice If you don’t feel any of those things in the relationship your in now THEN RUN get out now. Domestic abuse is NOT to be tolerated on any account . Reach out for help confide in someone who can help assist you with a exit plan. It is not your fault and I’m here to say you deserve better.

Most importantly In a time & age were social media is taking over …it’s becoming a more dangerous game to get online and see that someone has blasted your pictures all over the internet or slander your name. Don’t stand for that block and report that person and take action. Love your self first and everything else will work out. You are a boss ! You can achieve that goal you want ! You do look good in that dress !! Tell your self something good about your self everyday and that affirmation will start to give you the confidence that you need. So if you have been through anything on this list and it continues to happen to you….then leave . Make a exit plan and don’t look back. Cheating is unacceptable , domestic violence is a BIG NO- GO !! Your life and mental health is worth more then settling for less. I will list some information below for domestic violence hotline.

Until next time mommas

National Domestic violence hotline number

 1-800-799-7233 Chat w/ an advocate .

National abuse website

How I achieved my goal while rocking a baby on my hip !!

Moms I did it ! I finished my Community health worker certification program while entering my first year of being a first time mom. If I can do it then you can to !! Revisiting my educational goals have always been something important to me. Its pretty clear from the very first day of giving birth that I need to be in a position to provide for my child by all means necessary.

Me finishing this program while my child was under 1 yrs old , was challenging but never the less rewarding. I had hard nights and long days between juggling breastfeeding (on demand) working , being in love ( because we all know that takes so much of your energy lol) taking care of house hold duties. I could name so much everyday stuff that would get in the way on homework nights but I OVERCAME it all. You can to with the right support system around you. Truth be told with out my support system I couldn’t have done it.

Me & My son Titan with the off guard looks.

Can I let you in on a little seceret ?

So to keep it nice and short a Community health worker is someone who acts as a liaison between getting health and social services to those in need. During my time in school I have gotten the chance to volunteer at some cool events . Being in contact with so many other mothers/ women out there like me, who are just trying to figure out life while living . It has been such a big eye opener to me . This experience has taught me so much I’m even thinking about going back to obtain my bachelors degree ! You can do anything you put your mind to. Having My mom take the same course I took with me in the same semester was just a added bonus to give me that push I needed. Seeing her accomplish something as well motivated me to realize no matter what your age or time frame its NEVER to late to be a goal SETTER.

When its all said and done whats holding you back ? Fear ! Fear can only last so long before your inner voice creeps in and lets you know that you’ve got this. Once you slap all of those fears away you become UNSTOP ABLE.

Lets try something here together Today …..

  1. Write down on a piece of paper your goals
  2. Next write down your fears ( Pertaining to whats standing in your way)
  3. LASTLY… throw away the list of FEARS and focus on your goals .

Over the next month figure out what steps you can take to get closer to your goals. Remember that everyone’s goals may not look like yours. That’s what makes you unique . It may be something as small as getting all house hold things done, or finally publishing that book you been writing. Whatever the goal is find some-type of motivation to get there. As always I will be here every step of the way if you need more tips leave a comment below . I have a feeling this conversation will spark a fire in you to make a change !

Until next time, Mommas

6 random things I’ve learned over the past few weeks..

Hey mommas, First let me start off by welcoming my own return to my blog .

Okay so you want to know what I’ve been up to ? point blank in a nut shell Motherhood! I’ve been all over the place . I’m back enrolled in school and having separation anxiety from Titan. I’ve had to keep up with my goal of implementing some type of exercise through out the week and I’ve also had some personal obstacles during the last 2 months. But I’m back and ready to reconnect and inspire some women/moms again . So here’s a list of crazy random ,cliche things I’ve learned.

1. When life gives you lemons make lemon pie.

I dont handle sudden Changes well and sometimes I get so stuck in a world wind, that the actual problem it’s self seems bigger then it is. I stressed over who would watch Titan while I was at school. Only to have my little brother step up to help with no fuss(PROBLEM SOLVED). Now I can focus on getting my certification as a Community health advocate in hope of reaching out to help more people.

2. Being organized is the key to success.

When it comes down to it we are at our best when we already know the “Game plan ” . You have to list, alarms, reminders and goal setters if you want to be successful . How else will you remember to meet deadlines ? I hate going into things blindly, I like to know what I’m doing…I feel more in charge that way.

3. Find love in yourself

It is so utterly hard to find love in someone else when you don’t already love your self ! Before aware of the red flags when falling in love . I’ve come across this way to many times in my life to the point were I tell myself

” look you are enough, you are talented and you light up the room with your smile”

Sometimes you just need a little self boost to remind yourself of how rocking you really are when people try to tear you down.

4. Kids 1st birthdays shouldn’t be huge

I recently celebrated Titans 1st birthday in August with a bubble guppie theme party. Let’s just say that I still have left over party favors in September!! And he fell asleep before cake and ice cream/ gift opening. Do -not go over your budget or over the top for a party. Your baby will just love to see that thier parents are smiling at them and good vibes are in the air.

5. Stay CONNECTED with friends and family.

In a world full of technology it’s really easy to stay in contact with people . With all the different social media outlets or just a regular phone call here and there is good for the soul. You can’t handle life alone , we need adult conversations in our life it can’t be all baby talk. It’s good to release and let people in on what’s going on with you. When we shut our selves off from the world we tend to become sheltered in our own right , which is not always a good thing.

6. It’s okay to reinvent our selves

I have changed career paths over 5 times. I have fallen in love 3 times . I have changed my hair color with what mood I’m feeling. I go back and forth in my head on what’s right and what’s wrong. I have left some friendships in the past and I have refuel old ones as well. My views on certain topics have changed since having my first child and I’m not going to apologize for it. We are women it’s okay to change our minds ! You can not fully grow until you have shed old skin (Habits) . I say all this to say be yourself, be kind, be different . Explore new outlooks on life .Change is good when needed.



If you have discovered new things about your self or have commentary about something on my list, feel free to comment below or email me @

The Hands Free Momma Gadgets

How do us mothers get through our busy day? let alone stay-at-home mothers. It’s like you have to have a battery pack built-in to keep up with these kids. My little doesn’t even walk yet and he’s already running circles around me with his mood swings.

I think its a no-brainier that rather your babysitting someone’s kid or watching your own you will need some activities to do or some of these gadgets/baby toys to keep the little ones busy. I know I mention that I’m a first-time mom a lot, but even more so I’m a SHAM ( stay at home mom). I have to watch over Titan and keep up with household things not to mention keep this blog flowing with awesome content. At first I was little discouraged like how am I going to keep up with all of this ? How am I going to keep him happy and still maintain around the house . I don’t like to sit my baby in front of the television all day and my main concern is always safety 1st if I have to walk away and tend to something. So at my baby shower, I was thankfully  gifted with a few items as well as I have gone out and purchased a few on my own. If your baby is anything like mine then you have tried a few things that did work and a few that didn’t. His rock and play wasn’t a hit and home run for him right off the back but he soon grew to love it. however, as a 7-month-old baby, he has changed stages and is now so into his jumper and bouncer !! I can actually get a few dishes done and a load in the wash while he’s in his jumper. I’m just going to show you what I’m talking about I’m not into wasting time I live for solutions so here goes

The does all jumper

This has made my little one so happy. He thrives when he’s in this thing. I love the bright colors on it and fuzzy little details. It plays music, it lights up & adjusts to 3 different levels. It will grow with your baby in all ages up to 1+ depending on weight and it so easy to move around the house. So if you need to get something done this could possibly be your best friend.

Don’t have the room for the big toy in your way? Then maybe this next item will suit you better

The small bouncing buddy

This bouncer is so cute and lightweight with adjustable safety buckles.I don’t have to worry too much about my baby getting out. But if you have a child that’s at the sitter stage I’d keep an eye on them. You don’t want your little one leaning forward and possibly hitting his head. I love the feature play bar because it’s detachable so if your little one isn’t feeling the toy he has a hands-free option. I’ve even been guilty of feeding titan his solids in this thing once or twice (A mommas gotta do what mommas gotta do ).

Now some people get them mixed up but to me the difference between the jumper and a bouncer is evident. The jumper will let your little one move more freely so they won’t have to sit still ; Where as a bouncer keeps them in place with a play bar in front of them. whichever you choose both are great options to keep them safe, engaged and keeping your hands-free for a sec. These like so many other options out there help us get things done. We can not hold our baby’s all day and expect to get dinner prepared. (Who am I kidding my Titan won’t let me put him down half the time ) But what we can do is create a balance so that we get to spend time with our little one and see them put their imagination to work while playing and learning on their own. If your still feeling to tired and discouraged read my post on how to keep pushing when you have felt like you’ve had enough. You got this under control we are all super moms in our own right.

This post did contain some affiliate links ,but If you want something like what I’ve got then visit the links above. What are some of your go to toys for your little one? Comment below to continue the conversation I would love to hear your take.

Until next time mommas.

5 cheap activities to do during spring break

Spring break is here and you may may want to have a little fun with your child but dont want to have to break the bank. Well good news, you don’t have to ! Here is my list of 5 fun things to do in Texas with your family that are memory worthy.

Hi there mommas, spring break is here. The week we all either dread or love. Some might love spring break because its a a full week of spending time with your family or friends, while others may dread the idea of a house full of kids running around with nothing to do.  Rather you love it or hate it you have come to the right place. I am going to share with you some places I love to visit during this crunch time. Let me start this list of with my number 1 tip .. Saving money. Who doesn’t like to save a buck ? I’m going to try to keep this list with activities under $25 dollars . Lets get to it, I want you to feel confident scheduling your week without a glitch .

1. Dallas zoo 

This has always been a favorite place for me to visit. Having worked here a couple years back I’ve gotten to experience a lot of fun times seeing animals in  a fast paced atmosphere. Me and baby Titan went here this past weekend and it was a blast his first zoo trip. We walked around site seeing and even had the chance to feed a giraffe. As far as lunch goes they do have a restaurant (prices vary) or you could always save extra money buy bringing your own lunch (I would recommend that ) even having the kids help pack their lunch prior to going could be something fun for you both.  Although being a member comes with great perks you still can go and enjoy this fun attraction for less.   Adults $15 • kids 3-11 are $12 • Children 2 & under free   

2. Children’s Aquarium at fair park 

If you are a fish lover or just like blue waters and tranquility , this is the place for you. They have many activities within this small place to explore. Lots of up close fish tanks to look and learn with your child. Plus another added bonus to saving money you can bring your lunch here to mommas. They have a sting ray bay touch and feed section (only $2 for this ) Parking is always available and its fun for all ages don’t let the name fool you. Its one of the best places to go at fair park in Dallas. Adults $8 • kids 3-6 $6 • Children 2& under free !

3. Nicklerama 

A family owned building full of arcades games almost like a chuckie chesse but every game you play is a nickel. You cant beat 5 cents per game. They have a set up like no other with its unique style Cafeteria tables. You can bring your own drinks and food. With games and prizes and a entry price of only $3.50 , its sure to put a big smile on your kids faces. For a spring break special if you buy a $5.00 cup of nickels you get in free !  Continue reading “5 cheap activities to do during spring break”

We all have bad days

Hey mommas out there ,  I have come here to do a little Ranting & raving. Can we talk?

  Being a mom isn’t easy but when you look at your sweet little one its so hard to stay mad. I had a rough last week. Titan has been up and down and right at the peak of his 6 1/2  month growth spurt.  Although it has been fun watching him grow and find his toes. Its defiantly been a test to my energy level. Sleep is all I crave ! Am I wrong for wanting a little sleep here and there ? No Im not and you are not either. If you run on E all day and  have enough energy and patience with your baby I applaud you. I try to sneak in little naps here and there but lets face it I still have laundry to do and a million other things to keep the house afloat.  One night it felt like no matter what toy I gave Titan he just wouldn’t play. It was at that very moment that I ran through the checklist all moms do. Diaper changed ? Is he hungry ? Does he have gas ? Is anything irritating him ? Nothing was wrong, But one thing he was fighting his sleep . Here I am sitting here about to dose off and here he is fighting his sleep when it could all be so simple. Just close your eyes Titan and we both can rest peacefully.  That’s not how it works for baby’s though , they need comfort and sometimes want to hear they’re sweet little voices. After figuring this out ( me being a first -time mom and all ) I gave in  I wasn’t going to get any sleep and my best bet was to just turn on Bubbie Guppies and rock my Titan . It worked wonders. I think that our moods sometimes effect our children, sometimes you just have to go with it and take a deep breathe and release. Its crazy how after being so frustrated Titan can just smile or blow spit bubbles and my mood lightens. As moms we all have bad days and its better to talk about them with a friend or family member so you don’t feel alone. My friends and mom are life savers when it comes to this , I can always call them and they give me some good advice. Its so easy to feel overwhelmed, If you have someone you trust to watch your child for a quick 30 mintue nap take it. I know I am not the only one with break through moments like this. If you have some of your own bad day experiences  comment them down below. Titan is still the apple of my eye and I could still use 1 more nap . Its  Normal Im just starting off at this super mom thing.

Until next time .

How to handle a sick child

As Valentines day approaches, I’m neither happy or feeling the love. It sucks because this is one of my favorite times of the year

With the flu  and sickness epidemic floating  around, me and baby Titan are sick. Yes we both have the cant sleep- runny nose drip thing going on. As a first time mom I’m experiencing my little one go through this for the first time and it has been a ride to say the least.  We don’t have the flu but more so of the common cold . Here is my list of the  TOP 3 things that helped me while Titan was sick . I will also leave a link below for  a few signs of when its time to take your little one to the doctor.

Top 3 items that helped me while my child was sick

  1.  HAND SANITIZER –  I always keep this on me in my diaper bag or purse but its especially important to always wash your hands before handling your baby when sick and after. You do not  want to keep transferring any germs between your little one or you.
  2. NOSE SUCTION-  I’m not going to even try to convince you that baby’s love when you use this item, but its helped me so much with Titans clogged nose. By using this through out the day my baby felt more relief when he slept & during  his Breastfeeding session. I saw more of a improvement in him.  He was able to focus more on his meal and didn’t have to struggle as much to breathe. ( Side note * he did cry sometimes when I did it, so afterwards I placed a little Vaseline around his nose to help the dryness or irritation .)
  3. Humidifier –  This is a miracle from the gods! No more old school getting in your  bathtub and running the shower so steam can feel your nostrils. All you do is fill this item up with water and let it do the work for you. It helps you breathe better and filters out clean air .

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